I don’t know about you but there’s something about Fall that always seems to bring me back to life. To say it’s my favorite time of year would be an understatement; Halloween is my favorite holiday (yes even more than Christmas,) I got married in the Fall and last October our little dude entered the world. This year more than ever I feel like I am so caught up in the hecticness of daily life, from trying to manage an-almost toddler to still being a present wife, daughter and friend. It can be so overwhelming and one thing I’ve noticed amongst parents is this sense of competition; “my kid walked by this age, my kid already eats those things, my kid doesn’t sleep like that” etc etc etc. Now don’t get me wrong I’ve been finding a great support system in the parenting community but this sense of competition amongst friends, strangers, social media and so on is crazy to me. Growing up I can remember my dad always telling me to not compare my grades to the other kids and to try to do well for myself, not to be like others who maybe did better than me. All I know after this year is that parenting is hard, and every child, every teenager, every adult is different. We all do things our own way and we should embrace the differences in our kids rather than criticize them. It’s so awesome to see parents come together and support one another by offering advice or to be a sounding board, which as we know is more than necessary to keep our sanity. As my little dudes 1st birthday approaches I hope to gain more confidence as a parent and realize we’re all doing good as long as our kids are happy. That being said, excuse me while I go get a hot coffee, throw on a sweater and geek out over finally having some cold weather.
Well it’s officially my favorite time of year. Things have been so hectic lately between planning Sean’s first birthday party, starting Play School and trying to maintain somewhat of a social life, but I’m trying to stop and smell the roses so to say. Sean loves going to school and I am enjoying it a lot more than I thought. Once a week I get to go somewhere with him where he can play with other babies and I also get to spend time with other parents. It’s a welcoming environment that allows us to vent, exchange joys and concerns, offer advice and just relax. It has made me realize that as parents we all have issues; no baby is the same, we need to be easier on ourselves and learn to support one another. Finding a community amongst parents is more important than I realized, and being one of the only one of my friends with a child I am so glad I found a school that encourages parental support and forming friendships.
Now if this weather would chill out I’m getting anxious to get my pumpkin patch on. Halloween is my favorite day of the year and my son decided to be born on October 29 last year so needless to say this month is going to be ridiculously fun..busy, but fun. Im looking to try some new pumpkin and apple recipes over the next few weeks if anyone has any they love I’d love to hear some ideas or recipes. Aside from pumpkin patches what else are some fun Fall activities for families or couples?
Im not one to go to social media or my blog to complain or rant but I know I’m not the first parent to say this and I certainly won’t be the last: holy lord I am so TIRED! And yes of course you’re tired from the minute your baby enters the world but lately I have been feeling like my energy ranges from 1-3 on a scale of 10. The poor thing is teething like crazy lately which overall has led to lack of sleep and some stressful days. He’s crawling now which is so fun but as you know it means never sitting down for more than a few seconds..how are they so fast?! If people ask me what I want for Christmas this year I’m sticking with a lifetime supply of coffee or a tropical vacation, or both obviously. On the other hand our little dude will be ONE next month…how is that possible?! I always thought parents who went over the top for their kids first birthdays were nuts because the babies barely know what’s going on and don’t remember..but I totally get it now. I am going to go broke by the time I’m done making trips to Michaels Arts and Crafts, so far I’ve started a backdrop for the candy bar, have made some signs, put a food menu together, bought decor from Etsy and I’m still not done..my poor poor husband and wallet don’t stand a chance. Any advice or favorite parts of your child’s first birthday? We are doing a Superhero theme, which needless to say got my husband way too excited. It’s hard to believe we’re already getting things for his birthday together because I’m fairly certain I’m in major denial that he will actually be a toddler before we know it.
Is this weather crazy or what? It is so warm even in the city, which for those of you unfamiliar with San Francisco, is rare. Today we ventured right outside of the city to a town called Sausalito amd celebrated my husband’s grandparents anniversary (yeah, that’s a mouth full.) Few things make me happier than getting out of the house with the family and going on an adventure, especially if it’s somewhere I haven’t been before. I’m sure I’m not the only one who realizes that sometimes we take our surroundings for granted because we are so used to them and our daily routines are so scheduled. I’m realizing it’s important to take the time and experience the beautiful places in our own backyard, so to say. I hope our lil guy enjoys adventures as much as I do and that we can help him appreciate nature. It worries me how reliant children are on social media and technology these days for entertainment, and while I wouldn’t want Sean to miss out on that, I also want him to be able to have experiences like did growing up; building forts, playing in the mud, climbing trees and then some. Do any of you who have kids have advice on how to balance the intense technology and the simple things in life as your kids get older?
Happy August everyone, the Sunday of summer! Anyone else kind of confused as to how it can already be August? I feel like it was January five minutes ago. I was reminded the other day that my little human will be one years old in just two and a half months..people always tell you time flies by once your baby gets here but wow..what an understatement. I remember when I was pregnant last year during the hottest summer on record here, I prayed for time to just hurry up, now all I want is it to slow the heck down. Sean is quickly becoming a little man with his very own personality and I want to hold onto these moments as much as I can. Today we strolled around the park, him in his little baseball shirt, me with a large coffee in hand (per usual); I saw so many people with their toddlers running around and realized how soon that will be him and that I need to appreciate this pre-walking baby phase as much as possible. Sean loved looking at all the kids running around and laughed as they screamed and played tag..oh to be young again. I’m looking forward to the days when he can run around and talk, but don’t get me wrong, I’m in no hurry! It’s so fun watching our little ones grow up, and we grow up right along with them. Three quarters of the time I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing, there’s definitely no manual for becoming a parent and I may look like a mess or feel like a zombie sometimes but he’s happy and healthy, that’s what counts and in return makes me happier than I’ve ever been. What have been some of your favorite memories with your little humans?
Is something I’m having a hard time doing. Between the baby teething, having a working husband, trying to stay on a healthy diet and just being a 26 year old woman trying to maintain balance in her love life, her mom life, family life and friend life, can be more difficult at times than others. I’ve been realizing as each month goes by how important it is to let people help more than I have been: in my head I take care of my little human better than anyone else. When my husband gets a day off here and there I always take advantage of it and go shopping, do lunch or even go out for happy hour with friends..but those days are so far and few between that I’m starting to realize we as parents not only deserve some more quality time to ourselves, but we NEED it. Summer means more family events and they have already started, which is great but can be so hectic with a baby and so many family members it’s hard to please everyone. I’m learning to say no to people when I need to as hard as it is for me, because a stressed environment or a stressed parent solves nothing. This isn’t an easy job but there are some awesome kids out in the world so we must be doing alright. How do you guys maintain balance in so many aspects of your life?
Hint: I’ve learned that I have A LOT more to learn. I’ve learned that raising a human is a lot harder than most people care to tell you; it’s stressful, it’s exhausting, you never feel like you’re doing the right thing, and yet, it’s even more rewarding than you could even imagine because this little human is yours and you’re his. I think I was surprised at how I’ve adapted to being a mom. I grew up an only child, was somewhat of a party girl and for lack of a better word have been fairly selfish in terms of liking to do what I want when I want to do it. As we all know, that just doesn’t happen anymore! It’s true what they say that when you have a baby something inside of you changes (hopefully for everyone) and you can’t imagine not putting everything you’ve wanted aside for this new lil guy or girl. Now all the mushy stuff aside, I have definitely struggled a lot and sometimes yearn for the days of sleeping in, going out every weekend or even just getting to shower whenever I feel like it. One thing I’ve learned for sure is that I appreciate and respect my parents more than I ever have; something about going through it yourself makes you look at your own parents in a whole new light, and wow, do they deserve a medal. What have you guys learned so far or what’s the best advice you’ve gotten?