I don’t know about you but there’s something about Fall that always seems to bring me back to life. To say it’s my favorite time of year would be an understatement; Halloween is my favorite holiday (yes even more than Christmas,) I got married in the Fall and last October our little dude entered the world. This year more than ever I feel like I am so caught up in the hecticness of daily life, from trying to manage an-almost toddler to still being a present wife, daughter and friend. It can be so overwhelming and one thing I’ve noticed amongst parents is this sense of competition; “my kid walked by this age, my kid already eats those things, my kid doesn’t sleep like that” etc etc etc. Now don’t get me wrong I’ve been finding a great support system in the parenting community but this sense of competition amongst friends, strangers, social media and so on is crazy to me. Growing up I can remember my dad always telling me to not compare my grades to the other kids and to try to do well for myself, not to be like others who maybe did better than me. All I know after this year is that parenting is hard, and every child, every teenager, every adult is different. We all do things our own way and we should embrace the differences in our kids rather than criticize them. It’s so awesome to see parents come together and support one another by offering advice or to be a sounding board, which as we know is more than necessary to keep our sanity. As my little dudes 1st birthday approaches I hope to gain more confidence as a parent and realize we’re all doing good as long as our kids are happy. That being said, excuse me while I go get a hot coffee, throw on a sweater and geek out over finally having some cold weather.
Well it’s officially my favorite time of year. Things have been so hectic lately between planning Sean’s first birthday party, starting Play School and trying to maintain somewhat of a social life, but I’m trying to stop and smell the roses so to say. Sean loves going to school and I am enjoying it a lot more than I thought. Once a week I get to go somewhere with him where he can play with other babies and I also get to spend time with other parents. It’s a welcoming environment that allows us to vent, exchange joys and concerns, offer advice and just relax. It has made me realize that as parents we all have issues; no baby is the same, we need to be easier on ourselves and learn to support one another. Finding a community amongst parents is more important than I realized, and being one of the only one of my friends with a child I am so glad I found a school that encourages parental support and forming friendships.
Now if this weather would chill out I’m getting anxious to get my pumpkin patch on. Halloween is my favorite day of the year and my son decided to be born on October 29 last year so needless to say this month is going to be ridiculously fun..busy, but fun. Im looking to try some new pumpkin and apple recipes over the next few weeks if anyone has any they love I’d love to hear some ideas or recipes. Aside from pumpkin patches what else are some fun Fall activities for families or couples?
Im not one to go to social media or my blog to complain or rant but I know I’m not the first parent to say this and I certainly won’t be the last: holy lord I am so TIRED! And yes of course you’re tired from the minute your baby enters the world but lately I have been feeling like my energy ranges from 1-3 on a scale of 10. The poor thing is teething like crazy lately which overall has led to lack of sleep and some stressful days. He’s crawling now which is so fun but as you know it means never sitting down for more than a few seconds..how are they so fast?! If people ask me what I want for Christmas this year I’m sticking with a lifetime supply of coffee or a tropical vacation, or both obviously. On the other hand our little dude will be ONE next month…how is that possible?! I always thought parents who went over the top for their kids first birthdays were nuts because the babies barely know what’s going on and don’t remember..but I totally get it now. I am going to go broke by the time I’m done making trips to Michaels Arts and Crafts, so far I’ve started a backdrop for the candy bar, have made some signs, put a food menu together, bought decor from Etsy and I’m still not done..my poor poor husband and wallet don’t stand a chance. Any advice or favorite parts of your child’s first birthday? We are doing a Superhero theme, which needless to say got my husband way too excited. It’s hard to believe we’re already getting things for his birthday together because I’m fairly certain I’m in major denial that he will actually be a toddler before we know it.
Happy August everyone, the Sunday of summer! Anyone else kind of confused as to how it can already be August? I feel like it was January five minutes ago. I was reminded the other day that my little human will be one years old in just two and a half months..people always tell you time flies by once your baby gets here but wow..what an understatement. I remember when I was pregnant last year during the hottest summer on record here, I prayed for time to just hurry up, now all I want is it to slow the heck down. Sean is quickly becoming a little man with his very own personality and I want to hold onto these moments as much as I can. Today we strolled around the park, him in his little baseball shirt, me with a large coffee in hand (per usual); I saw so many people with their toddlers running around and realized how soon that will be him and that I need to appreciate this pre-walking baby phase as much as possible. Sean loved looking at all the kids running around and laughed as they screamed and played tag..oh to be young again. I’m looking forward to the days when he can run around and talk, but don’t get me wrong, I’m in no hurry! It’s so fun watching our little ones grow up, and we grow up right along with them. Three quarters of the time I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing, there’s definitely no manual for becoming a parent and I may look like a mess or feel like a zombie sometimes but he’s happy and healthy, that’s what counts and in return makes me happier than I’ve ever been. What have been some of your favorite memories with your little humans?
Hint: I’ve learned that I have A LOT more to learn. I’ve learned that raising a human is a lot harder than most people care to tell you; it’s stressful, it’s exhausting, you never feel like you’re doing the right thing, and yet, it’s even more rewarding than you could even imagine because this little human is yours and you’re his. I think I was surprised at how I’ve adapted to being a mom. I grew up an only child, was somewhat of a party girl and for lack of a better word have been fairly selfish in terms of liking to do what I want when I want to do it. As we all know, that just doesn’t happen anymore! It’s true what they say that when you have a baby something inside of you changes (hopefully for everyone) and you can’t imagine not putting everything you’ve wanted aside for this new lil guy or girl. Now all the mushy stuff aside, I have definitely struggled a lot and sometimes yearn for the days of sleeping in, going out every weekend or even just getting to shower whenever I feel like it. One thing I’ve learned for sure is that I appreciate and respect my parents more than I ever have; something about going through it yourself makes you look at your own parents in a whole new light, and wow, do they deserve a medal. What have you guys learned so far or what’s the best advice you’ve gotten?
Holy cow guys, did we have a long, fun and crazy weekend. We took the lil human on his first road trip, which needless to say had its ups and downs. About 25 minutes outside of our destination, we took a wrong turn and all I have to say is thank the lord for Google maps, am I right?! Without it we would probably still be trying to find our way. The lil guy was so upset because he was hungry so in the dark we pulled over on the random road and I went in the back to feed him while my husband tried to multitask driving and direction duty. We finally made it to Carmel where my family has a vacation home. I think one of my favorite parts of having a baby is seeing how much joy he brings my parents, they were like pigs in shit (excuse my language) to be with him all weekend. We did some exploring Saturday and had a delicious dinner with wine flowing and a gorgeous sunset to end the day. The hubs and I had our first Sunday wedding and drove back home Monday morning only to discover that our dog got fleas from another dog…Welcome Home!!! Ug, needless to say coming home immediately jerked us out of vacation mode but I just keep thinking about next weekend and what it will be like to experience my first Mother’s Day as not only a daughter, but now a mom too. Does anyone have exciting Mother’s Day plans? I’d love to hear about them!
This mama had one fun weekend. On Friday the hub took on baby duty and I went out for a night of music and dancing with a few of my girlfriends, which made me beyond happy to let loose, check in and have some quality time. I woke up Saturday exhausted but had to get up and go, we were getting ready for our first Giants game of the season and the first ring ceremony we’ve ever been to, it was incredible. The ballpark was packed like I’ve never seen it before but we managed to each get our own free replica World Series ring. Once in our seats with some snacks and soda, I looked up to see men parachuting down to the field with the Tiffany’s rings for all of the players, it was awesome! The boys won the game with our good luck there, but I couldn’t wait to get to my parents house to pick up the lil human. It’s funny how when I know I’ll be having a few hours away from him I think it’ll be a nice break, but then when I’m without him (which is pretty rare as a stay-at-hom mom) all I want is him with me! I think I need to keep that in mind when I’m exhausted or he’s having a tantrum, won’t sleep and so on. Did any of you have a fun adventure this weekend?